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Men Circle Sexuality
Authentic Sexuality: Discover Your Masculinity Beyond Old Patterns
A workshop for men who want more than the stereotype
A workshop in which Sexworkers share their knowledge with us
Are you ready to redefine your sexuality?
Many men unconsciously learn about sexuality from a mixture of societal pressure, patriarchal expectations, and often distorted, pornographic representations. The result: insecurity, the feeling of having to "function," and a gap between what they live and what they truly want and feel.
This workshop offers you a safe space to break precisely these patterns. It's not about learning new rules, but about finding your authentic sexuality.
What to expect:
Self-knowledge instead of external determination: We explore what truly defines your sexuality, away from pressure to perform and stereotypical role models.
Security and competence: You will develop a deep understanding of your own needs, boundaries, and desires, which will make you a competent and conscious lover—in your relationship with yourself and with others.
Authenticity and presence: Learn how to be present, honest, and vulnerable in sexual encounters to create a deeper connection and more satisfying experiences.
Our Teachers Will Be:
A central and revolutionary pillar of this workshop is the collaboration with experienced sex workers.
These women bring unparalleled knowledge and a unique perspective on sexuality, communication, intimacy, and desire to the course. They are experts in human dynamics, boundaries, and the diversity of sexual encounters.
In this workshop, they take on the role of important teachers, sharing their profound knowledge and experiences. They help us men to shed patriarchal perspectives and develop a sexuality based on respect, genuine encounter, and mutual consent. Their perspectives are a key component on the path to your sexual integrity.
Invest in a masculinity that is authentic. Invest in a sexuality that is fulfilling.
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Why are sex workers our teachers?
In many beautiful and intense conversations, I was repeatedly able to see how much sex workers have experienced with men and their sexuality. Over the years of their work, they have acquired a great deal of real knowledge about men's desires, fears, ideas, and shame. Sex workers are practiced in the radical acceptance that enables men to let go of their shame and express their true desires and insecurities.
They experience men, even on a 'business' basis, in their needs, worries, and even ideas that so often do not correspond to reality.
They develop a good sense of where men are in their sexuality, how authentic or alien they are to themselves when it comes to intimacy and sexuality.
This is different from the knowledge presented in traditional sex therapy. And there is an even greater difference in how the learning environment is designed.
It's also important that these teachers aren't just sex workers, who are often negatively connotated by society, but are also seen as experienced individuals and professionals in their entirety.
It's important that we can acquire and develop not only cognitive knowledge, but above all, physical sensation. This can only happen through direct and very conscious sexual acts in a therapeutic sense. This isn't about enjoying a commercial service for a fee; it's about self-discovery, getting to know one's own sexuality, and developing sexual competence and relationship skills, with the help of our teachers, the sexworkers.
Our teachers, the sex workers, often bring with them not only extensive practical experience but also training in sex education and sex therapy, which they can incorporate into this work. They approach you as a man with a great deal of sexual security, competence, and openness.
The foundation for this new approach to sexuality is Slow Sex. Only through slowness is it possible to discover, develop, and integrate a deeper emotional and more connected sexuality. This slowness and the accompanying relaxation are of utmost importance for a space in which to find peace, security, and relaxation within one's own sexuality.
Sex workers, in particular, have extensive experience in guiding stress and pressure to succeed in sexuality toward relaxation and emotional nourishment. All sexual acts that take place here are therefore based on the relaxation method of Slow Sex.
The practical and valuable aspect of this is that sex workers, in particular, understand the importance of communication and, within it, consent. Sex workers are often masters at clearly defining boundaries, exploring desires without judgment or judgement, and thus creating a safe space for these desires. Sex workers are thus also role models for clear and respectful sexual communication, which both men and women can transfer into their relationships.
In this context, sexual acts are also strictly governed by clear rules, consent, and awareness. Even though sexual acts may occur here, they always take place in a controlled, educational, and therapeutic space.
Why Slow Sex?
Focus from performance pressure to relaxation, awareness, and deep connection.
The benefits for men are:
Relaxation and mindfulness:
Through slowness and consciously experiencing the moment, we men can learn to be more present in our bodies, reduce stress, and relax, which is often perceived as a cure for sexual problems.
The method teaches us to view ejaculation and orgasm as separate events. We can learn to contain ejaculation (ejaculatory control), which can extend the sexual encounter over longer periods.
Overcoming sexual problems: The practice can help overcome problems such as premature ejaculation or erectile difficulties by focusing on relaxation and sensitivity rather than increasing arousal.
Emotional and spiritual strengthening: Slow sex emphasizes strengthening emotional and spiritual connection. The slowness creates space for deeper intimacy, bonding, and the experience of sexuality as a kind of "meditative union."
Holistic experience: Men learn to experience their sexuality more consciously and mindfully, leading to a deeper understanding of their own bodies and sensations.
In summary, slow sex offers men a way to experience their sexuality as a healing and empowering instrument of love, leading to greater peace, security, and a deeper sense of fulfillment—both in their relationship and within themselves.
The Choice of Teachers:
Why Sex Workers for Cis Men and Male-Reading People?
This workshop is explicitly aimed at cisgender men and male-identified individuals who wish to unlearn and rediscover their sexuality. The conscious decision to use sex workers as primary teachers in this setting is based on a clear pedagogical consideration that addresses the traditional gender gap and the specific challenges of male socialization.
The Patriarchal Mirror:
Cisgender men often experience sexuality through the lens of patriarchal performance-based thinking, in which women are sexualized or dehumanized. Interacting with sex workers—who are traditionally perceived as the "other" of the patriarchal system—offers cisgender men a unique opportunity:
Recognizing their own dynamics: They reflect the patterns, expectations, and performance anxieties that men have internalized when dealing with the female body and female sexuality.
Reflecting on power imbalances: This consciously chosen, professional interaction allows for the uncovering of the power imbalance that can be latent in sexual relationships and for renegotiating one's own role – all on the basis of clear consent and respect.
A focus on female expertise for male learning:
The sex workers bring profound expertise in interacting with male clients. They are experts in recognizing men's unspoken needs and insecurities in a sexual context. They teach authentic communication, respect, and a shift away from purely functional thinking – precisely the building blocks that cisgender men often lack due to traditional socialization.
A comprehensive pedagogical concept:
This approach is part of our broader, inclusive concept. In a later course, we will deliberately utilize sex workers and non-binary sex workers as teachers for cisgender women and female-identified individuals. The focus will be on the specific challenges and learning areas of this target group, such as discovering one's own desires, setting boundaries, and exploring male role models from a female perspective.
The goal is not to separate the sexes, but rather to optimize specific learning paths. By emphasizing the expertise of each "other," we create the most effective and safe space for profound self-awareness and sexual competence development, which goes far beyond traditional counseling.
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